Saturday, August 1, 2015

Remembering Rosa...


One year ago, on August 03, 2014 we lost a little one. Rosa Medrano died at the age of 3. Her Mom and big brothers continue to struggle with the grief. With permission below is Rosa’s eulogy given by her Pediatrician, Dr. Shea Bowling. In honor of Sally, Jesse and Tata and in memory of Rosa who is now healed and dancing in the fields with Jesus…let us not forget and let us live in hope! d

“I am honored and humbled to share with you the life of Rosa Medrano.  To share with you the joy and the anguish that surrounds these last days.  I was privileged to be part of the team who cared for Rosa medically.

In the small things I was able to help with, Rosa and her family helped me and many others in great things.  I am grateful to God, Sally and her family for allowing me to share in this precious life. We come to days like these with mixed emotions and thoughts – sadness, anguish, anger, confusion – we want to know why and to see the purpose in everything – we doubt, we have questions – why this sweet little girl is taken and others get to stay.

What words can be spoken to soothe broken hearts.  To bring hope, healing, and peace – a reason to go on.

I looked for some poem or song, something profound…the only word that comes is JESUS.

As I thought about the truth of this that Jesus is our hope, our understanding, the answer to all our confusion and questions, all our deep hurts and longings.  I smiled and began to think of Rosa’s arrival in Heaven.

I saw her skipping and twirling in green tall grass in a beautiful, long white dress with a big bow in the back, barefoot with her long flowing curly coal black hair glistening in the sun.  She arrives to a host of ancestors who have waited to meet her and rejoice at her arrival.  They talk as if they have always known each other, and then in the field out in the open, she spots Jesus waiting. She giggles and runs into His arms.  He gives her the biggest hug and twirls her around.  He gently kisses her cheek, brushing her hair from her face.  They walk hand in hand to the stream and sit down on the bank. Rosa begins to point at all the creatures she sees and talks to Jesus about them.  As she delights, Jesus turns and says, `Rosa I love you so much! I am so glad to see you, welcome home my good and faithful servant.’ You see Rosa was God’s real life example of His unconditional love.

As you know while Rosa was in her earthly body, she did not get to walk or talk or giggle.  But no matter, Rosa accomplished more in the 3 years of her life than most of us will our whole life.  Rosa is a picture for us to see of the love that Jesus has for us.  A love that is unconditional and forever.  You see Rosa was just like any other little girl.  She liked her nails done but she liked mama best! She would be ornery with new nurses and breathe against her ventilator just to get her Mom in the room.  She enjoyed her brother’s announcements of how much they loved her.  She hated the hospital and was always glad to come home.  She looked pretty in pink, loved Dora and stuffed animals.

Rosa lived in a broken body while on this earth but never a broken spirit.  Some would look in and feel sorry for her family and think all a burden.  They think why did this have to happen?  But I will tell you that her family counted every day as a gift.  Jonita said it best, `I am grateful for you Sally for taking such good care of her and grateful to God for every day we got to have with her.’ The best picture I know on earth that helps me begin to understand the greatness of God’s love for us is a mother’s love for her child.  This is the gift of Rosa straight from God to this family and the gift of seeing God’s love in watching this family love her.  Jonita spoke what all in Rosa’s family feel in their hearts – I love Rosa and I would give my life for hers.  I love all of my family and would die for any of them.  What is love, if not this?  Jesus said greater love hath no man than to lay down one’s life for another.  We talk about love and long for it.  We think we find it. Paul describes love to the Corinthians in this way, `Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude.  It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about the injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.’ (1 Corinthians 13: 4-7)

Rosa’s family demonstrated every word of Love as they cared for and gave up much to experience the deeper joy of loving Rosa.  I saw Sally go without sleep for days, miss meals, holidays, and hot showers so she could be there to care for Rosa.  I saw brothers thrilled that their sister got a new room, never jealous or upset that their Mama needed to be with Rosa.  I saw Aunts willing to give up everything to help Rosa and love on their sister Sally.  Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, Grandmas, Brothers, and Sisters all there to love Rosa – no matter what.  We knew when Rosa was just an infant that her days on earth would be short and difficult, but Sally and her family would never have missed a day to be with her.  I think this poem I heard sums it up best, Child of Mine (Edward Albert Guest)

 Child of Mine

I’ll lend you for a little time

A child of mine. He said,

For you to love while she lives

and mourn when she is gone.

It may be six of seven years

or twenty-two or three,

But will you, till I call her back,

Take care of her for me?

She’ll bring her charms to gladden you,

but should her stay be brief,

You’ll have her lovely memories,

as solace for your grief.

I cannot promise she will stay,

since all from earth return,

But there are lessons taught down there

I want this child to learn.

I’ve looked the wide world over

In my search for teachers true

and from the throngs that crowd life’s lanes

I have selected you

Now will you give her all your love,

Nor think the labor vain,

Nor hate Me when I come to call

To take her back again?

I fancied that I heard them say:

Dear Lord, Thy will be done!

For all the joy Thy Child shall bring

the risk of grief we’ll run.

We’ll shelter her with tenderness;

We’ll love her while we may,

and for happiness we’ve known

Forever grateful stay.

But should angels call for her

much sooner than we planned

we’ll brace the bitter grief that comes and try to understand.

Love when it is real is full of joy and deep anguish.  Mary was blessed to be the mother of Jesus to know and love Jesus as His mother – what a privilege!  But, her very heart was pierced when He died on a cross but again lifted to highest heights when He rose from the dead.  Our hearts rejoice in the life and gift of Rosa and our hearts are pierced as she leaves us…but this is not it. Jesus said I have come that you might have eternal life.  He told the disciples to be quiet and let the children come unto Me and He blessed them.  He said unless you come as a little child you cannot enter My kingdom.  Rosa is laughing, running, twirling, smelling flowers and riding horses with Jesus in Heaven.  She showed us the great and unending love of God for all of us.  God loved Sally and her family so much that He sent Rosa for a little while to show us love – to be a picture to you of His great love.

God loved us so much that He sent His son Jesus to be our hope, our peace, our reason to get up tomorrow and keep going – keep loving on this earth until we enter His perfect peace and rest in Heaven.

Jesus tells us in John 6 all that is required for this eternal life is to, `Believe in Me. Believe that I love you so much I gave up Heaven, lived on earth that you might see God’s love in a living human being, I died on a cross to rescue you from the evil that has taken life and hope from you.  All you have to do to enter…is believe in Me.  Believe, I am God’s son.’ Jesus says, `Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens and I will give you rest.  Take my yoke upon you let Me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy to bear and the burden I give you is light.’

Rosa’s very life has brought all of us together from all walks of life to be a picture of God’s love on this earth.  In three short years she accomplished this and has been received into Jesus’ arms and lives forever in a perfect beautiful new body!!  What shall we do with the days we have left? Will we spend it with Jesus loving or will we spend it without hope, comfort or peace?

Annie Dillard said, `You do not have to sit outside in the dark, if however you want to look at the stars, you will find that the darkness is necessary.  But the stars neither require nor demand it.’ True love is sometimes wrapped in sorrow (darkness) as we say goodbye but, will we run from the dark and difficult and risk missing the beautiful stars – the moments, the memories, the lives that we experience when we know love?  Jesus waits to love us all, to comfort us, to give us peace, will we run into His arms….

Let us celebrate that Rosa is home with Jesus, whole and perfect. She waits with Jesus to welcome us in Heaven. “

 

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