Monday, March 31, 2014

April is Child Abuse Prevention Month


wear a blue ribbon

Rise early enough every morning to give yourself five minutes of quiet time

Say “hellllooo” first

Be a Good Samaritan when the moment arises

Compliment, only when you mean it

When someone is talking, LISTEN to him or her, no matter how many times you’ve heard the story before

Happy childhoods last a lifetime - so try to improve your marriage, your kids are counting on you

When others gossip, don’t join in

                                                   Lead by example - at home, at work and at church


Get to know your neighbors you might need each other one day

Hold yourself accountable

Hold others accountable

Every day write one thing on a piece of paper that you’re thankful for…

put them in a jar and pull them out at Thanksgiving and reread them

When you’re wrong, admit it

When you’re right - feel good - but don’t gloat

Frequent businesses that support local charities

Proof read everything you write

Volunteer

Don’t ask anyone to do anything you’re not willing to do yourself

Always use your manners, especially in traffic, at the mall and while waiting in line

Spend time with folks that you’d be proud to introduce to your folks

Forgive others and try to forget

Forgive yourself and try to remember

Boycott businesses you know to be unjust

Vote, but know as much as you can about their politics and their values

                                                 Always do more than you have to - at home, at work and at church


Pray Hard

Take yourself to dinner and a movie, if you don’t enjoy your own company, neither will others

Tithe with a pure heart and you’ll get back more than you give

Don’t get your blood pressure up over things out of your influence

Speak up over things within your circle of influence

Say “no” to requests that will encourage taking you for granted

Always say “yes” when you’re really needed

Child abuse is unbearable; if you suspect it, report it

                                             Always encourage fairness - at home, at work and at church


Be willing to take a little less, when someone else can get a little more

Buy only from roadside stands that misspell froots and vegtibles

Engage someone you don’t know in polite conversation twice a week

Support projects and programs that build “kidlet” character

Turn your music down in a residential neighborhood…turn it up when you’re on the open road

Always buy at least two plates at a food fund-raiser

Spend time with kidlets and seniors, and pay attention, you’ll learn a lot

When you make a promise – keep it, a child’s confidence is built on your word

Say “please” and “thank you” and hold a door – even when its not reciprocated

When you have a lot of mail, take it to the post office, give your carrier a break

Make it easy on the clean up person

                                                                Recycle – at home, at work and at church


Send someone a card, just because

Always corral your shopping cart, the next dent you prevent, may be your own

When you make it to the top, continue to visit the bottom…

you may have forgotten things and you still have things to learn

Pick up a piece of litter for every negative thought you have

Don’t force your children to go to church…introduce them to God and watch them want to go

Wear a blue ribbon in April and be prepared to explain why

 

You can make a difference in the lives you encounter today

and to make a difference in the lives encountered tomorrow?…




teach these things to your children










                                                                          deni-2006






Sunday, March 2, 2014

No one listens to me....


We had the 2nd annual Mighty Women of God Conference at First Baptist Church last Saturday…about 100 or so women showed up. There should have been 1,000 in attendance. Where were you???? Okay, I know I should have sent out an email.

The guest speaker was Janet Denison. You can go to www.janetdenison.com to learn more about her. She and her husband, Jim Denison, PhD also have a ministry called Denison Forum on Truth and Culture, you can go to www.denisonforum.org to check it out…

Janet said that by the time today’s second graders get to voting age, they will be persecuted for their faith in the USA. She said that when you add all the Christians together from around the world, the USA and Great Britain make up about 6%. Since we have smart phones…we can now take the Bible EVERYWHERE we go in the world. Folks across the water are hungry for Jesus and are risking life and limb to find Him and serve Him…but not here.

In the USA we have Miley Cyrus twerking, Phillip Seymour Hoffman dying of a drug overdose and kids suing their parents after they leave home at 18 for financial support. A man carried a gun - legally, mind you - into a movie theatre, shoots and kills a man over texting. Kids are killing themselves because they're bullied at school and online.

Let’s bring this closer to home…we have a task force discussing "what to do about" the downtown homeless population, a woman using a walker was run over by an SUV at 3rd and Lewis…and the driver kept going.  A man shot and killed himself and before his body was taken away, folks stopped to take pictures. Subsidized housing units are being destroyed in order to make room for lofts and apartments for the upper middle class.  Before a woman became `a dying woman’ she applied for Title 19 so she could get on the transplant list (you can’t be on a transplant list without insurance) but every medical record started out with, ‘cirrhosis of the liver from chronic alcoholism’ even though she had been sober for years…she never got the insurance and died.

I could go on, and on, and on…

So, how did you react to what I just wrote? Did you shake your head and then say, “Hey, after we drop the kids off let’s go to a movie?” Did you skip over it because it’s “just too hard to read,” and act like everything “out there” is fine. If our heart is hard, if we are desensitized to the hurting of others, we need to beseech the Father to remove the cheese crust from around our heart. What we’re missing is compassion. We really don’t care anymore. It’s just none of our business. Really???

We can do more. We can do better.

I have never seen so many people who, to everyone looking on, should have hit rock bottom years ago…but people’s rock bottoms are further down than I have ever seen. People have hard hearts. Loving people to Jesus in the USA is harder than it’s ever been. Immediate gratification, “I deserve it,’ the notion that ‘God never did anything for me before, why should I seek Him now’ or "God, who?" – is running rampant. People are willing to try anything to numb the pain…something like 38,000 people overdosed in 2010 – that’s more than traffic accidents and guns.  Scary stuff.

We didn’t make this mess over night. But, what are we doing to make it better?

GUTS church is working on putting together a public/private event at Union Public Schools; a massive outreach to our community - the details are still being ironed out.

It’s not enough.

Roughly 84,000 people live in a `food desert' in Tulsa.  The Real Good Food Truck, a mobile grocery store will be making stops at 12 locations in north Tulsa and west Tulsa starting this summer.

It’s not enough.

Winter Jam, E Conference, Christian musicians, Beth Moore, Secret Keeper Tween Conference, Promise Keepers…they all come to Tulsa.

It’s not enough.

Many churches in our community have benevolence ministries and give away food and clothes and help with utilities.  There are ministries throughout Tulsa who set up shop once a week to share the gospel and provide a hot meal. My church, First Baptist Church Tulsa provides a night of respite once a quarter for caregivers of special needs kids. We have two Caring Centers, one downtown and one in south Tulsa.

It’s not enough.

Tulsa does fundraisers – tons of them in our community – for breast cancer, Alzheimer’s, heart disease, etc. The idea is to raise awareness and raise money to help fund a cure…

It’s not enough.

Many churches have Celebrate Recovery meetings, Grief Share, Divorce Care, Stephen Ministry, etc.

It’s not enough.

What can truly make a difference? You. Yes, you.

I’m a social worker, it is very easy for me to look around and see all of the holes in the system; the enormous gap between the rich and the poor and I fight like crazy to keep people from falling through the cracks and perishing. But, there are so many and they are perishing so quickly…partly because the system sucks and partly because nobody cares enough to advocate for the down and out. It’s hard, really hard to do, there are many obstacles and often it takes so long that we lose people in the process.  There are not enough advocates. I hear pew sitters all the time saying we don’t “know anyone” who needs help or we can’t find anyone to invite to church.  Really?  We’re looking with our eyes closed. If we don’t see a problem, then we don’t have to do anything…so we live in denial and ignorance until the poor, the hurting, the mentally ill, the addict, shows up at our doorstep or they turn out to be a family member and THEN we want to do something.  If we’re hiding in the closet of denial until “one of those people” touches us…I promise, we won’t have to wait very long.

I have vented many times asking churches to do more. To provide free child care, to provide respite for caregivers taking care of family members with Alzheimer’s, to serve food 3 or 4 or 5 times a week, provide transportation to those trying to get to work or school on time because if they rely on our transit system they’ll be late or if they work on Sunday they’re out of luck.  There are kids throughout our community who need mentors – men and women. We have more seniors living alone; isolated, overmedicated, hungry and depressed than we could ever imagine.  Trust me, there's at least one in your neighborhood.

When I ask the tough question to a leader in a church, “So WHY are we not doing more outreach to share Jesus with our community?” It’s not because we don’t have money, we have a lot of financial donors; Tulsa has been “the” charity capital before.

We don’t have volunteers. We don’t have you.

We’re a selfish bunch. We also have our priorities messed up. How many activities do our kids really need to be in? How many vacations to Disney World do we need to take? How much TV do we have to watch? How much time do we REALLY need to text? twitter? Facebook? Instagram? Pinterest? Really??? Really???

How many outfits do we really need? How many concerts and evenings eating out do we need? How much “me” time do we need?  How many hours do we have to golf or scrapbook a week?

When we say we don’t have time to volunteer…so what exactly are we filling our time with? And did we talk to Jesus about it? Is what we fill our life with what we want, what we think we should do, because we want to sound, “Busy with important stuff?”

My pastor has thrown down the gauntlet…over Lent he has asked us to sacrifice one thing with intention and faithfulness; his family is giving up TV in the evenings.  He has also asked us to share Jesus with one person…over a 40-day period. That’s it. It’s really not a lot…except to selfish people.

I would be willing to bet if we sacrificed “me” God would teach us a lot. Make a point to spend time with Jesus over Lent…ask Him if we’re living “my” life or are we living “His?” There’s probably a whole lotta “me” in there.

We’re selfish and we like it that way. We’ve earned that expensive dinner, that new purse, that antique bookcase, that vacation to Hawaii.  So, we can either accept that we are selfish and we want to live for our enjoyment and pleasure and quit acting like He matters when there's dust on our Bible OR we can pray for forgiveness - and mean it.

When we repent, then we can truly become servants. It’s hard. Darn hard. But, nothing is more important than our relationship with Jesus. Nothing.

People are perishing. Are you listening? People are literally dying all around us and we’re acting as if it’s okay, “Maybe I should have talked to him about Jesus...well that's life.” Hard hearts. 6% - USA and Great Britain combined are Christ followers. That’s not very many. It’s time to care. It’s time to sob over people perishing and then wipe our eyes and ask God to show us how He wants to use us. Right here, right now. Hurry. Eternity is urgent.

“Holy, holy, holy is the Lord Almighty; the whole earth is full of His glory.”

At the sound of their voices the doorposts and thresholds shook and the temple was filled with smoke.

“Woe to me,” I cried (Isaiah). “I am ruined! For I am a man of unclean lips, and I live among a people of unclean lips, and my eyes have seen the King, the Lord Almighty.”

Then one of the seraphs flew to me with a live coal in his hand, which he had taken with tongs from the altar.  With it he touched my mouth and said, “See, this has touched your lips; your guilt is taken away and your sin atoned for.”

Then I heard the voice of the Lord saying, “Whom shall I send? And who will go for us? 

And I said, “Here am I. Send me!!” Isaiah 6: 3-9

Where are all of the Isaiahs????

 d